I need some mature advices about my love life from some experienced people! please give me a solution!?

I am a 19 yr old student in uk who is from a mixed russian and persian background. I have really big aims in my life , and don't really have time to spend time on relationships. My plan is studying business and finance at university in the UK (my course starts in a week) and at the same time get music grades in singing and piano. After I finish my uni in the year 2010 ,i will go straight to moscow for "gnesini musical college" and I have big aims from there for opera and music. With all my plans I can't really afford to have a seriouse relationship and I know my personality, I am a kind of guy who can easily fall in love and ruin his time on a relationship which usually doesnt last for more than 2 years (I tell this from past experience)! But at the same time not getting into a relationship is putting me under a lot of emotional problems and depressions and stress. I am really scared to go near girls , cuz i fear to fall for them (as i have in the past) !! PLEASE give me a solution! :(

You are young enough to follow your dreams, A relationship can wait until you have made your mind up to achieve your goals. Do not be in a big rush.

get your priorites straight then have casual dates

No magic answer for you. You want to realize your dreams and to do that you can't get in a serious relationship, makes perfect sense to me.

sorry. i would date. but that is just me.

you can't live your life in fear of relationship cause they don't work in the end because then you will never find the one you were meant to always be with but by any means am I telling you to throw away what you are working so hard for there is nothing wrong with dating and still living your dream don't rush into anything take your time and get to really know someone for who they really are if it don't work out move on but don't give up good luck

theres not much of a solution, unless you can keep your distance with a chick. i mean not too much but enough to let her know that that is what you want.

also you can let her know straight up from the getgo that you arent looking for anything serious & maybe SHE wont let you get caught up in Love.

live alone forever or make comprimises

well only YOU can control your emotions. How about you just "date" or "have friends", keep everything "light" and simple, if you feel yourself falling for someone, "Slap" yourself and remember your goals.......... but in the meantime YOU JUST MIGHT meet a wonderful young lady who understands and has Goals for her future also.... perhaps this would be perfect, you'll both finish school, get married, travel the world have children and wonderful life.........................LOL, Just STAY FOCUSED

I think you should try having girls as friends, so that you see being with a girl doesn't have to mean falling in love.

Then, you'll be mature enough to have a girlfriend where it's not too serious, but you still respect and love her.

talk to a shrink

you are young so enjoy life flirt a bit have some one night stands and a on of relationship until the time is right then you can find Mrs right and settle down but until the relax and enjoy your self.

short answer is to surround urself with people who are busy like u are and make planed outings maybe try and see an older woman , or spend time with some one who is unattainable like some one who has a man already u could just be blunt and tell every new girl u meet that you just need a benifecial relationship for mutual support weather its going out or just sex

There is always a happy medium. Looking at your lifetime goals is something else that you wanna throw in the mix. Do you ever plan to get married? Maybe a time line. For example, if you wanna get married and have 4 kids by the year 2015, then you might need to do some revamping...Really it's your life, and your choice. You are only 19, that gives you plenty of time to do what you want to do and complete your goals before starting relationships. Plus, in my experience, no matter what you'll find someone along the way, and everything will fall into place. I wouldn't stress, go to school, study hard...if you find a girl that you like, take her out, make love and be happy! If she knows your goals, and really loves you...then hey, maybe you''ll end up in music and opera AND a nice woman by yourside. Good luck.

Your only 19 first of all. You have have some major goals and from what it sounds like your a brilliant person. You have a lot in front of you. Being in college you'll have to meet girls. It is inevitable that you will. Falling in and out of love a what helps you to become a better person. Make friends with all kinds of girls in your classes. If you fall in love thats fine. Your life will be filled with many highs and lows. It is those ups and downs that will help define you as person, help you to discover the inner you and lead you to a place in your life you never dreamed you would be. Let go of your anxiety, enjoys your gifts and live your life. When the time is right for serious relationships you'll know and you'll be prepared. Don't beat yourself up. Your only human afterall. Good luck with your future. Remember me when your famous.

What if you date casually as friends so that you have that female companionship, but there is an understanding that you will not get involved romantically? Or what if you go out in groups of friends with both guys and girls so that again, there is an understanding that you are just going out as friends? This provides the companionship you need but doesn't put you in a position to fall for someone if that is something you don't want. Really though, you are only 19 and if you have had a relationship for even close to 2 years, then you are doing a lot better than a lot of people your age.

When you date someone, you do risk falling in love with that person and then getting hurt. That is the chance you must be willing to take if you want to date someone. If you are not willing to take that chance, then the best thing to do is to avoid dating altogether and focus strictly on your studies. Staying very busy will help put a damper on your social life anyway, as college/university students are usually kept pretty busy with their studies. I can tell you as someone who had friends who were music majors, you will be kept pretty busy in your musical studies and may not even have time to date anyone.

If you do decide to go out with someone, don't read too much into things. Just relax and enjoy the friendship with the girl. If you are meant to truly have a relationship with her, it will be unavoidable no matter how hard you try because these things just naturally seem to come about when it is right. If it is right, then you will find a way to make it work, even when you go to Moscow after you finish your education. If you have to force a relationship or have to work hard at maintaining a balance between a relationship and school, then you should probably not be in that relationship. The right girl will understand the importance of your education and will not expect you to sacrifice your educational goals for her. She will also not stand in the way or distract you from them. The right girl however, will also be willing to be your friend and will be patient as you complete your education and will stand by you as you pursue your dreams. You will never know however, if this can happen if you are afraid to take that chance. Just relax and do your best in your studies. If you meet someone who captivates you, figure out what it is about her that you like. If it is mostly a physical attraction, then you will fall easily for her but will be left feeling hurt. If the attraction is deeper than that, then give it a shot. The worst that could happen is that you could get hurt. The best that could happen is that you could find the girl of your dreams and be very happy.

Poor soul. We all want to be loved, don't we? Feeling loved as well as being in love makes everything feel soooo good. It's only natural to crave love and affection. Some of your statements make me feel that you are blessed with some awareness of yourself. You will continue to learn more about yourself with time. At your age, I believe life is not necessarily knowing what you want ( in life and love ), but, through trial and error, finding out what you don' t want. You will take more from the more trying situations ( it will feel like torture at times ). That being said, I feel that you must live in the moment. Don't think too much about it. When you obsess about things, you are diverting energy, which can be quite draining both emotionally and physically. That can make it difficult to enjoy yourself. It is my thought that you need to do what makes you feel best. On that same token, when things no longer make you feel good, it is time to move on and re-evaluate. I think if you meet someone who can bring out the best in you ( even if temporary ), it is worth the lesson. When you are truly happy, you will know it. You can be both a dedicated student and in love ( it will inspire you to do your best ). Love ( in all it's shape, forms and degrees ) makes everything sweeter. Just be aware when it is time for a change ( once again, it will drain you, including your passion and creativity). You may not meet your " one and only " for several years, but you will learn so much in the meantime. And if you are fortunate to find your one and only tomorrow, you are that much more blessed. Good luck.

You need to breathe and slow down. Do you stop 2 ask yourself why her? Is she just cute, smart, NEEDY, or just their? What are u looking for in a female? You have all the answers you just dont realize it. My friend told me many years ago I was a bum magnet and i got offended. She was right back then. Be careful.