Lets call her, Jess. So me and her were BESTESTEST friends. Then a boy came in and ruined pretty much everything.
I liked a guy (lets call him bob) and i liked him for like 5 months. Then i found out he liked her. I would cry every single night. I liked him out of every guy i've ever liked. I told her that. She would always say "i'll talk to him for you" and i see them "talking" and i see them FLIRTING. then after she started liking him. and she KNEW i started crying like every night, i started cutting, i stopped eating, because of it. i mean like, i REALLY liked him. and she'd always cheer me up saying "emily i would never do this to you, i love you more than any guy, i'm your bestest friend i care about you more than any guy who will come through our lives" and i was like aww thats sweet jess is a good friend. then she goes out with him. she kisses him in front of me, she talks about him 24/7 with me. and it doesnt make me feel better, at ALL.
before that happend we would NEVER fight, we were like perfect best friends, never fight, did everything together, blahblah
after that happened we fought about stupid things sooooo much more.
THEN i started knowing the real her.
she made my year at school HELL. every guy i liked, she would start liking, then flirt with him, then he'd like her. every single guy. no joke. And I felt whenever she was around I couldn't have any chances with anyone.
Whenever we went shopping i'd pick something cute out, i'd try it on, she'd be like eww thats sooo ugly on you! then she goes and buys it for herself.
she always calls me fat and ugly.
She got popular because of me, i knew older kids at our school and now shes all friends with them. Now she wears abercrombie, hollister, ect. before she shopped at like marshells and wal mart. She changed. shes a ***** now. She talks smack bout everybody, then goes off and acts like she loves them. shes so fake and 2 faced.
I would talk to her about it a million times. I'd always tell her I regret being her friend and that she used to be so nice, and such a good friend, but now she changed. and she kept saying "emily dont worry i will change i will be a better person" and after probably 10 times of her saying that, she didnt change.
so i left her. i told her i didnt wanna be friends with her anymore. and this was like a month before school ended.
after i stopped being her friend, literally 98% of all her friends stopped. They said they never liked her because they knew she atlked **** about them, they just didnt wanna tell her cuz they thought I would get mad at them for not liking Jess.
So jess had no friends, she'd hang out in the library and study during lunch and brunch, then she told someone "i will assure emily that i will be a better friend now"
i feel like she just wants to use me. Just to get popular, just to get her friends back.
and she told people "wow emilys a ***** i wanna fist fight that hoe" and she'd tell me "emily you have EVERY right to be mad at me, i was never a true friend i'm sorry"
this was all like a month ago.
then she messaged me on myspace saying this
"emily,
even though were not friends anymore
i still miss you, very much
i want you to know that ill NEVER, EVER forget all the great times we had.
Im so so SO sorry for everything ive done to hurt you.
i really wish i can take it all back..
I DO want to be your friend again believe it or not. it pisses me off how so many people are concerned between me and your fight because really its NONE of their business.
and emily trust me, i do NOT want to be your friend again for the wrong reasons. i can't blame you, for believing other people all the stuff about me because i haven't been a good friend to you lately but one way or another you have to believe me cause everything theyve told you is a LIE
Ive been trying to forget about you too, someone was like "i think you should just forget about emily" but then someone else was like "i think you should just keep trying to be her friend". but neither of those have worked.
I know i've hurt you MANY times, and im sorry, i really mean it. it's really hard to tell you this on the computer because it would sound different in person but now schools over so idk how that would happen.
dont reply to this, just know, that i still care about you
and everything in this message came right from my heart"
I don't know if I should be her friend again. a new school year is starting and I'm TOTALLY confused. one second I really do miss her (we had a LOT of good times together, a lottt) and the next second i think "wow shes just using me, she doesnt deserve me, she gets everything she wanted, the boys from me, the clothes from me, the popularity from me, and she still gets me in the end after treating me like that" so I dont know
the message seems pretty honest, do YOU thnk i should be her friend? plus all my friends think i shouldnt be her friend. they think its not worth the risk of having another regret. and having another worst school year because of her.
but thats just an opinion. someone else said i just try it out, try being her friend again and if she screws up one more time then its over for her.
and everyone like hates her, and i feel sorta bad cuz she'll have like no friends at school. =/ No, i just ended a 17 year friendship for good because i would keep accepting her apology every time because it sounded sincere. It hurts yes because you put so much into the friendship all the good times and everything, but pretty soon the ugly monster comes back out and you will be going through this all over again.
Friends dont steal each other boyfriends they dont stab you in the back. They're supposed to be trustworthy and there to enjoy life with you not make you feel worthless and miserable.
Your a very emotional person you would be best to keep a diary when your feeling upset.
Please dont cut yourself i know you do it so you can feel some other pain other than heartache. but afterwards you feel stupid why scar yourself over something some selfish person has put you through. write it down rip it up get you emotions out some other way. Scream into a pillow dont hurt yourself its not worth it.
Take it from someone who has to explain about the scars later on in life. Try talking to a school counselor it helped me.
Good Luck
wow, that really sucks. i think you should find a few more friends if "Jess" really misses you she'll find a way to prove it to you. but i wouldn't trust her right away. good luck with all this
p.s. please don't stop eating or stuff like that just for some guy i honestly have no idea what to tell you but if you believe she should get another chance then let her have it and if she still doesn't change then let it be cause you can't change anybody unless they wanna do it for themselves to be a better person Well talk to her in person and ask for the real truth. that might work i wouldn't be her friend if i were you
you sound like a really nice person, you deserve better friends than her
at this rate, if you stay her friend you'll get get lower self-esteem and she'll keep stealing your crushes
good luck with everything !! i wish you the best!! Well it seems like yall have alot of problems but you should give her one last chance. But tell her if she messes up this time that you wont give her another chance. Dont open up to her all the way. Just like start over. Like make her earn your trust again.
It seems pretty tough but you should forgive her over and over again even though she seems like she's hurt you alot.
And she has. And she should be sorry. But thats not the point.
If the friendship was awesome before, this could just be a trial to see how strong your bond really is. But dont open up to quick to her.
Hope i helped and i hope and your friend "jess" become close again.
wow i think the story would make a good book but really i think you should lose them both. She as a true friend would not of done that to you and as for him well this is from a guys view but maybe he selected the one he wanted and that may be a plus for you cause maybe a better guy is waiting for you and a better friend. Life will hand you a bunch of crap and how you deal with it makes you a better person. Hope the right decision is made and you find the right people to surround you That's when forgiveness come in..
When a person confess, truly sorry...That person
ought to be forgiven..
If she hurts you again it's because of sinful nature..
If all is well, you've gotten yourself a new-found-lost friend.. WOw that is really long! but anyway she is obviously jealous of you. Ignore she only going to do it again. Now that she has no friends, shes come crawling to you, u can be and say hi but I wouldnt trust her, she'd do the same thing anyway, you're way better off without her look how upset u were when u were friends dont let her manipulate u anymore. SHES NOT A FRIEND THAT U'D WANT |
